Saturday, 22 February 2014

Foundation for A Successful Home

Foundation in building construction is important because it determines the size, height and strength of a building. If these components are not properly appropriated with the foundation, the building will collapse. Ps.11:3.
Marriage can be likened to a building or a house; built on a proper foundation required to sustain the structure. A home can be compared to a building.
What is this foundation? (Basic Understanding of Marriage)
1.Marriage is God’s establishment: God saw the need for marriage in a man’s life and created it, not on man’s request. Gen. 2:18-23. James 1:17, Ps.85:12, Prov. 18:22.
2.Marriage is good and perfect: God established marriage for the good of man. Marriage is not a necessary evil, it makes life better. Eccl. 4:9, Deut. 32:30.
Why God established Marriage
Marriage is established for the following reasons:
1.For Companionship: Gen. 2:18. God’s primary reason is for companionship. Mal. 2:14. Marriage is God’s intention to eradicate loneliness. Your spouse ought to be your best friend.
2.To provide help: Your wife is ordained as your help or helper. Gen. 2:18-20. Marriage is supposed to help you spiritually, mentally and emotionally.
3.To deliver from immorality: Marriage is designed to satisfy your needs emotionally. 1 Cor.17:1-4, Prov. 5:15
4.To raise Godly children(Procreation): Gen. 1:27-28, Mal. 2:15
Danger of Marital crisis
1.It hinders God`s presence in your life. Ps. 133:1
2.Prayer is hindered I Pet.3:7
3.The door is open to the enemy. James 3:16
4.You impact negatively on your world. 2 Cor. 3:2, I Tim. 4:12
5.It hinders fulfillment and God`s blessings. When you are not fulfilled in your marriage, it affects other areas of your life.
When there’s misunderstanding between husband and wife, then the devil is being given room. If the couple is not smart enough to kick him out, he will steal from them. In order to avoid marital crisis, proper foundation has to be in place. So, what is this foundation? Col 3:18, 19. Eph 5:22-33
1.                SUBMISSION.
What is submission? It is to yield to the power or authority of another.
How to submit
a)                The wife should submit to her own husband. Eph 5:22.
b)                Wives should submit to their husbands as unto the Lord.
c)Wives should submit in everything. Eph 5:24.
d)                Her submission must be from her heart. Isa 1:19, Col 3:23
Submission doesn’t have to be difficult. It is easy when you;
·       Understand who you are and your purpose as a woman.
·       See it as a commandment from God.
·       Be broken spiritually: Allow the word of God to be the dictator for your life.
·       Ask God for grace. 2 Cor. 12:9, Phil 4:13.
2.                LOVE.
Love is difficult to define. Love is VALUE. It is the worth you place on someone that determines how you treat them. Col 3:19. Eph 5:25.
How to love your wife
1)                Love her emotionally: Be emotionally attached to her. Care for her. John 11:35, 36.
2)                Love her sacrificially: Pay any price to prove your love for her. John 3:16, SOS 8:6-7, 1 Cor 13:4-13.
3)                Love her unconditionally. Rom 5:8.
A successful marriage is not a gift, it is a choice.


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